Ola!
Aku terfikir apa maksud judgmental sebenarnya. According to my dictionary, judgemental (spelling - judgmental is preferred for legal used, preferred in UK n NZ, also found in the Bible) is tendency of making judgement especially related to moral and personal ones. Its an adjective so its up to somebody on the degree of being judgemental and on what things to judge on. Judgemental for me is not just making bad comments or gossiping about others, its more than that, worse!.
So is it wrong to be judgemental???
Its difficult really to answer that question. My first argument which is against that behaviour - we are humble human created by God and on what basis we are allowed to judge others? Are we better than others, or is it because we think somebody has done something wrong culturally, religiously or socially so we are free to do that. The victims will normally feel discriminated and of course will avoid the group who they thought tend to be judgemental. Kesian la pada victim group ni. Kalau kita rase diorg buat salah, x payah la nk kata macam2 tp seeloknya bantu dia baiki apa yang kurang. For example, kalau kita tgk somebody wearing provocatively, patutkah kita ckp yg dia ni penyebab kpd keruntuhan moral (mostly akan jadi eye-candy subject kita). Tak patut kan….
Ok, my second argument. We live in a community. Nobody lives alone in a dungeon or somewhere far away from other beings. We have been brought up with values that tell us wht is wrong and wht is right. Sometimes we can see straight away that somebody buat benda salah. So of course some people tends to be judgemental on things they know that are wrong. X boleh jugak kita nk salahkan org yg judgemental ni sbb kalau benda2 yg obvious and so wrong or sinned, they will be picked up easily.
Its easy to be judgemental, Kadang2 kita x tau yg kita ada sifat ni. I think most of us ada sifat ni. I would like to remind my frens, jgn la jugde org laen sbb masing2 ada kekurangan. Cuma kalau kita tau dia buat salah, perbetulkan especially those yg rapat dgn kita. Jangan nk kuarkan statement yg berani mati yg akan merosakkan hubungan. Paling teruk pon, simpan je judgement kita tu dlm diri kalau dah x bleh nk baiki kelemahan org lain. Satu lagi, kena jugak fikir yang community sekeliling kita ni sensitive. So think hard before u do things. Jgn nk fikir yg kita duk kat negara merdeka democracy, kita bebas nk express ourselves. But if u r bold enough and dont care much, then just be yourself-la.
Just be sensible.
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